Showing posts with label Chiderah. Show all posts
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Wednesday, July 9, 2008

Your Black College: The "Miseducation" of Black Youth


Going to a prestigious university, and having come from a well recognized series of primary and secondary education is a blessing that I never take for granted. My high school’s graduating rate was about 90% my senior year, and moved up to 94% the year after. Out of about 500 seniors, less than 100 are not continuing on to higher education or vocational options.

A fifteen minute metro train ride from my high school in Maryland will take you to the D.C. public school system, where everything is the complete opposite. Washington D.C. public schools have received and/or tied for the lowest rankings in the country as far as basic learning skills, test scores, drop-out rates, poverty make-up, and safety issues are concerned. The Washington Post featured an article about whether or not the District schools are fixable. Noting that

“After decades of reforms, three out of four students fall below math standards. More money is spent running the schools than on teaching. And urgent repair jobs take more than a year…”

Washington Post article

There is a deeper issue than this. I think the most important thing that contributes to the success of students in any school system, is the attention paid to the racial make-up of these students and their needs, their economic backgrounds, the lack of motivation, and the unfortunate plight of using property taxes to pay for the upkeep of schools in cities where property tax is low or properties are not owned.

Most of the students that attended my high school come from middle-class, single family homes and townhouses, decent paying jobs, and safer-than-most neighborhoods. At a glance I would say the school is about 56% white, 26% Black, 10% Asian, 6% Hispanic, and the rest a combination of smaller populations.

In the cities where most Black and Hispanic families are, the Black population can sometimes be as high as 98% and the poverty level beyond belief. Even the city of Syracuse, where I attend the university, sees similar results to those of the D.C. public schooling systems. The problems are repetitive. More attention is given to thriving schools that have enough money coming in from their property taxes to pay for newer and better facilities and equipment. More parents in these thriving schools are actually involved with the schooling of their children. More teachers and guidance counselors are helpful to students that don’t pose as threats to their safety.

My younger sister is the president of her high school’s NAACP Youth Leadership Chapter, so when I am home, I attend some of the meetings with her. In almost every meeting, the topic has been about how to get the Black students of Maryland and D.C. public schools motivated enough to come to school, stay in school, and graduate to higher learning.

Too many of our youth are “miseducated” about their chances of success. The guidance counselors and teachers in these schools of urban areas suggest these students consider working after high school instead of going to college. The parents either did not go to college and don’t tell their children they should, or are not home enough to really be involved with their child’s education (although, I do understand that some parents have no choice but to work- sometimes multiple jobs, sometimes for single parent families).

Too many children drop out and follow lives of crime or become pregnant. Those that drop out are often times not given any reason or motivation to go back. Too many children believe that rappers and athletes are the only moneymakers, and therefore see no point in school for those talents ( what about doctors, lawyers, journalists, businessmen/ or women…?), and finally, too many children are not informed about the MANY scholarships, programs, fee waivers and resources that can help them succeed regardless of their race, gender, family, and economic standing.

The problems are repetitive. The initiative has been taken, but the results are far from where they need to be. I do not think it is Obama’s job to come to the rescue of the Black community. What he can maybe do for the school systems, is see to it that the governors of each state make sure that funding is equalized for all of their areas.

Kanye West said in his song “Champion”:

“‘Cause who the kids gonna listen to, huh?/ I guess me if it isn’t you”

I take that as a personal challenge. Whether or not you have children, it is our duty as members of the Black community to see our kids succeed. Better yet, it is our duty as members of the human race to see all kids succeed. They at least need to know that they have options, because success does not only mean going to college, it means living up to their fullest potentials- whatever that may be.

Tuesday, July 1, 2008

Your Black College Students: Steppin' Out On A Relationship



There is a saying that warns us never to “lie, cheat or steal”, but there are no sayings that have stopped the middle man- cheating (in the context of relationships) from being the reason for, and looming over more than 40% of failed relationships between men and women.

Many people consider it the unforgivable act and the ultimate end to a union. Cheating is regarded as an act of selfishness, of absent-mindedness, or to some…a way to find out how strong a relationship is.

Cheating is just as prevalent in youth/college-aged relationships, as it is in marriage. The statistics for both are very close in number, and responses are quite similar. What does the abundance of cheating in youthful relationships say about the cheating patterns, and likelihood of growing up to cheat on a spouse in marriage?

I performed a simple Facebook question and answer survey, and invited my friends between the ages of 16 and 25 to respond and comment about their thoughts on cheating.

Out of all of the participating respondents:

60% of the respondents between the ages of 16 and 25 had been cheated on at least once.

20% of the respondents had been cheated on more than once.

60% of males admitted to having cheated on a partner at least once.

20% of females admitted to having cheated on a partner at least once.

70% of respondents agree with the “once a cheater, always a cheater” saying.

60% of females stayed with a partner who once cheated on them.

30% of males stayed with a partner who once cheated on them.

50% of the respondents had relationships that ended because of cheating.

70% of the respondents agreed that cheating means purposefully hurting a partner.

80% of the respondents agreed that the decision to cheat is harbored by some sort of insecurity.

100% of the respondents agreed that cheating is a selfish act.

100% of the respondents agreed that cheating is not worth it in the end.


These statistics speak volumes for the effect of cheating on trust issues for people that have been cheated on, and potentially even for the success rate of couples between the ages of 16-25. More girls are likely to forgive their cheating boyfriends, while more boys consider cheating the ultimate unforgivable act. Of course there are exceptions to all of these statistics, but from the survey and the responses that I received, I can conclude that cheating is a more serious problem than some may dismiss it as, and a huge contribution (or rather hindrance) to the success rate of future couples.

This is not to say that the act of cheating is right or wrong. These opinions vary per individual, but the general consensus is that selfishness and insecurity have a lot to do with the reasons why people cheat. Although most would rather not admit to this, it may be an important underlying cause.

Wednesday, June 18, 2008

Things We’re Thankful Our Parents Aren’t In College With Us to See

While I’m away at college I often find myself saying “Thank God my mom isn’t here to see this”. When I heard my close friend say the same thing one day, I decided to ask around and compile a list of the top 10 things we are so thankful that our parents are not there for. Here are some of the funniest, and best reasons why black kids have so much fun in college.


Things We’re Thankful Our Parents Aren’t In College With Us to See:

1. Our “sex-capades” (the sexual behavior). Obviously. It may not be your precious little angels, but “that girl” or “that boy” that we know down the hall definitely doesn’t want his/her parents to find out what they’ve been doing.

2. Our morning classroom naps. Maybe you will understand why we sleep through some classes (or don’t even go at all) when you sit through one of those boring writing or statistics lectures at 8:25am.

3. Our laundry habits. We don’t separate the colors. Some of us don’t even know the difference between detergent and fabric softener.

4. Our ears. Cleaning the ears was something for the parents to do, since they could see them. They don’t really bother us, out of sight…out of mind. Cue-Tips are now widely used for removing nail polish or make up.

5. Our eating habits. So pizza can be breakfast, cereal can be dinner, and wings are usually fourth-meal (2am snack). Most of us only get fruit servings through Gushers’ candy, and the only veggies we see are the celery sticks that come with the wings.

6. Our parties. Well…we just don’t dance like you do. That’s all.

7. Our procrastination. Actually, some of us might benefit from having our parents to remind us about those papers. It would save us from pulling the all-nighters!

8. Our video game habits. Without parents there to tell us to stop playing and come for dinner, we don’t.

9. Our outfits. Sometimes looking nice and presentable is too much of a hassle. Other times showering and wearing clothes at all is too much of a hassle.

10. Our Facebook profiles. Thank goodness for privacy settings.

Some parents reading this might find this compilation quite comical. Others are probably concerned and wondering about what their kids are doing. But, think about your own college experiences. It is the same script, different cast. For the most part, these behaviors are not life threatening. Most of the above is all part of the fun of college no matter what graduating class you are, they never change. Besides, if we’re not failing out of school, there’s no need to worry! Parents ought to give their college students a lot of credit. We somehow manage to survive and figure things out for ourselves, and that is how you know you’ve done a good job in raising us.